What is communications? I keep wondering, so many people start a talk well and in the end they argue. Some people listen just to reply or argue, there are so many instances where couple are afraid of communicating to each other with the fear that they will fight… I am always wrong and he/she is always right.
When we look at the Dictionary
Essential Meaning of communication
1: the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else
human communication
nonverbal communication
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2formal : a message that is given to someone : a letter, telephone call, etc.
3: the ways of sending information to people by using technology
radio/wireless/electronic communications
Communications is a growing industry.
But i realize that often communication turn into dispute, battle, competition, putting others down, and so on.
We all forget that each of everyone of us have our own unique dictionary and all communication is being filtered by our dictionary for our brain to process.
As what the word “baby” means to 1000 people we most likely get 1000 unique answer
– Asked a woman who always yearn to have a baby but cant
– Asked a woman who have 4 very bad and naughty kids
– Asked a grand parents who just have a grandson
– Asked a parents who just lost their baby
We will have different meaning of the word “baby” we are just mentioning about the word “baby” how about all other words that will touch our values, belief or emotions.
Have we ever asked ourselves is it important that there is someone that is right and someone that is wrong?
I understand that it’s hard for us not to judge others especially when we are communicating with others because in each and every journey of our life we will make judgement.
The time we choose to sleep earlier we make a judgement to sleep earlier
The time that we choose to drink coffee instead of tea we make a judgement
Some people learn communication, persuasion skill to ensure their view, their want, their irritation to be heard by others and worst just to forcefully influence other unethically, which leave the other party to feel small, hurt, cheated, fear or defend less. Is that communication?
I want to invite you to view communication in a slightly different way, If we can just have a communication, connection, discussion just for each of us to speak freely without having a need to give a mark of whose perspective is right or whose is wrong, will that be a happier experience with all parties? when we communicate just to share each other way of thinking will it be richer? when we see communication is just as someone trying to convey their thought and we asked rather than mind reading or guessing when we don’t really understand the meaning or feel hurt, will it make relationship better.
The decision is your on what is communication means to you and could we make communication fun again.